I understand yesterday was “Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day”. I didn’t know there was such a day. I think it makes sense however in a society like our’s where it is so easy to discard anything that doesn’t fit into the “norm”. The very thought of “infant loss” is sad. It doesn’t conjure up thoughts of joy or welcome little one, or future. Some may even think or believe that the babies we “lose” are not to be remembered, not to be given consideration. Not being born doesn’t mean “never existed”.
People, including family members, aren’t always understanding or even sympathetic. Perhaps because they have never experienced child death loss in any way, they cannot understand. To understand is cognitive, it is some we try to process through using our thoughts. People can however be sensitive or empathetic showing the “affective” part of us. It shows some sensitivity, some emotional feelings toward those who experience or suffer the “loss” of a child, whether born or unborn.
I wonder how many parents or grandparents, or other family members, took time to honour the memory of these precious children? I wonder if they know other people do care. Perhaps that is a mere assumption. Perhaps others don’t care.
As a grandparent, I think of those I looked forward to saying “Hi” to and welcoming into our family. The “hi” was instead a “goodbye”! The anticipated joy turned quickly to a sadness that lingers. The grandparents I communicate with understand what I mean.
I’m working through this type of “loss” and may continue at another time. I’m not sure however if people will even show interest in this post. That will be an answer in itself.
Perhaps the death of a child is one of life’s most sad and terrifying experiences to endure. Some people with this “loss” on a daily basis. If you are one of these people feel free to share your story here. Say whatever you want.
Take care for now!